November 24, 2011

Gratitude + Divorce | Our First Thanksgiving Apart; Together

During this time of giving thanks, I would like to extend my deepest gratitude to all of you for reading my blog. Quite a lot has happened recently and I feel like it's time to tell you a bit about that. My husband Eric and I got divorced back in March and as you can imagine, it was a difficult time. I spent the summer riding my bike, swimming in the ocean, hanging out with our dachshund, and trying to keep up with the demands of a social media/advertising business. It took everything I had to keep it going. I regret that My Dog-Eared Pages was a bit left in the dust of my summer sadness. But, you all kept visiting—over 125,000 visits just since March—and I thank you so much for that!

If there can be good news about a divorce, ours is that Eric and I are still great friends. In fact, he has moved back in for 6 weeks to help me out as I've just had foot surgery. I will be in a cast for 6 weeks—so needless to say—Eric is a gem to step-up and he deserves an abundance of my gratitude. There is nothing in the world that can prepare you for the emotional road a divorce takes you down. No matter what the circumstance—a divorce is the end of a dream—and, it's taken a while to discover who the new "us" is. We are still working on that. For Thanksgiving, we ordered 'take-out' from our local gourmet food store, so no grand table settings, or travel, or guests this year. I had fun this morning selecting items from 1st dibs [a sort of virtual table setting].
In an interview I read recently on The Style Saloniste, writer Diane Dorrans Saeks was talking with Bob Garcia [of the venerable Therien antiques galleries] about collecting today. Bob said something marvelous: "The focus is on the individual merits of each piece rather than the relationship of pieces to each other." Bob is always challenging old ways and looking in new directions—maybe that's what Eric and I are doing, too. And, it's certainly what I've attempted to do with my virtual Thanksgiving table setting from 1st dibs.

Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with love and gratitude. And, my deepest thanks to each of you for taking the time to read My Dog-Eared Pages. oxo


  1. Barb - I adore your virtual table setting and am so glad to hear that things are slowly moving forward on all fronts. Here's to finding new paths in all aspects of life!! Wishing you the happiest of Thanksgivings and a speedy recovery!

  2. Well, Quintessence said exactly what I wanted to say. Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving (take-out sounds divine about right now). xo

  3. Barbara-

    Great good luck with everything.
    I'm so pleased my feature on antiques was so inspiring.
    Take good care of yourself...and be sure to get out into NATURE and fresh air and light this weekend.
    This is the start of something wonderful. best DIANE

  4. I'm, as always, proud of you my friend. You have panache & I admire you so. Life is about our journey's; many painful but always a life lesson. You are on that next incredible road & what's exciting? You are in charge of your destiny. Next waters, uncharted!

    Here's to your next 50+ years! xo

  5. Barbara,
    Life is a journey and all we can take is one step at a time. Sometimes the course is circuitous and winding but trust your steps lead you in the right direction.
    Take care and your table setting would make even the worst take-out elegant.

  6. Managing change with grace is such a gift - I'm not sure I did as well. Wishing you a happy holiday and a quick recovery.

  7. Since Billy is a cracker jack chef, can't imagine what he is whipping up in the kitchen for your table. Always set a pretty table-that's what my GranMa who lived alone for over 40 years after her husband past away- and she really did. I tried to follow her lead when I lived alone and did so for myself. You are off to a beautiful start-except for the caste thing.That philosophy of Bob Garcia's allows us to be surrounded by the things we love and not the things we think we should-as in Life, recognizing what these things are is a challenge and a gift. xo to you. Gaye

  8. Stacey Q! Thanks for keeping me informed and entertained with your fantastic blogging each morning! And, for your dear friendship. We will meet and have a drink one of these days... soon! ox

    Tiffany, Yes! Sometimes take-out works out best, indeed!! ; )

    Diane, Your chat with Bob Garcia gave me the inspiration and the thread I was looking for to talk about my recent months. Mr. Garcia is a gem of information. I enjoy your writing tremendously and appreciate the sentiment of your note. Thank you so much!

    Deb my dear, you have been a great support to me in the midst of all of your own tremendous life changes. As you know, I had been trying to find a way to talk about my divorce. It's just too huge not to mention on a blog of one's own. But now it's done. Thinking of you as your family gets ready for tonight's tribute to your father. Love to you and thanks TONS dear. oxo

    Patricia [PVE], I adore that you mention "trust your steps" because ultimately, that's what it's all about. Thank you SO much for your note! ox

    Patricia [Mrs. B], I'm humbled by your note. But I have seen you handle change in the most gracious ways. And, I just have to say again that I'm blown away by your dining room!! You "get" the Garcia philosophy! ; )

    Patricia [Gaye] p.g.t - I think 'cracker jack chef' is one of the most hysterical descriptions of Billy. And, your GranMa was right! Your summary of Bob Garcia's philosophy is right-on in EVERY way. Your charming card just arrived. I love it! Thank you. The most fantastic Little Augury will keep me in good company while I'm living in hot-pink castville! oxo

  9. Good morning Boo. Just knew in time you would find a quiet moment to share. As usual...with grace & style.

    PINK? Wow! I would have imagined Ikat. Do you have Sharpies? There ya go!

    My mom has that china. Like I said, you have great style!

    I'm always here friend.

  10. Good morning dear Lisa, Thank you... if feels good to share things, in time. Yes, my cast is hot-pink... and looks so much nicer than it feels. I think they might re-do it tomorrow. Hmmmm... maybe I'll get them to use pink and red strips! I'm into that combo at the moment!! Thank you for being here ; ) ox

  11. Barbara, so beautifully said by such a beautiful person. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best. I know great things are ahead!

  12. Dearest Casey, thank you so much for your sweet support. It means a lot. And, yes! Great things are ahead, I know it too. oxo

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  14. Dear sg, I am delighted to receive your comment and it's lovely to know you are finding some inspiration from my blog!
    Happy Holidays ; )


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